| Not an easy subject right? Before we
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| | you - you need to go and ask an adult'.
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| begin, the important thing to remember is
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| | Make sure they know never to approach the
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| that you don't want to terrify your kids
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| | car to engage in conversation.Equally
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| about the world we live in, or make them
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| | this age group may feel obliged if
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| feel nervous on a daily basis. In
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| | someone struggling with their shopping
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| particular with younger ones, we all know
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| | bags or having trouble lifting something
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| children are prone to nightmares when
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| | into a car asks them for help. Adults
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| their imaginations are active about any
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| | should ask other adults for help - not
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| kind of predator.This is important for
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| | children! Advise your child that if this
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| you as a parent also. We ARE very
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| | ever happens to them, not to go over and
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| fortunate in Australia that the rate of
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| | help the person, but to say "I'll just go
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| non-parental child abductions is low in
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| | and find an adult to help you". If
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| comparison to other countries. In our
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| | applicable your child should then go into
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| eyes though a 'low' rate is still too
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| | a shop and speak to the shopkeeper only
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| many, and our aim is that NO children or
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| | (again, not just a shopper), to advise
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| their families will ever have to go
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| | them someone is wanting help
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| through the unthinkable. Other well
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| | outside.Common Tactics of Abductors
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| reported statistics on the rates of child
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| | We've already mentioned what your child
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| sexual abuse are far too high though, so
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| | should do if an adult approaches them for
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| some of the tips we'll cover here are
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| | help, but there are many other well known
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| pertinent to helping your children
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| | 'tricks' used to lure children away from
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| protect themselves in these situations as
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| | safety. The obvious one is an adult
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| well.Let's start with what NOT to say.
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| | offering gifts or lollies, or suggesting
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| Most of us have been brought up with the
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| | the child come and look at some cute
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| traditional 'stranger danger' message.
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| | little kittens or puppies. Teach your
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| "Don't go with a stranger" has been
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| | kids (all ages) that these are common
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| proven to be horribly ineffective in
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| | tricks, and if anyone ever tells them
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| keeping kids safe. So first rule of thumb
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| | they have something great to show them,
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| is leave the word 'stranger' out of your
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| | they should ignore the offer and go
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| vocabulary when discussing safety with
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| | immediately to a trusted adult or to a
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| your kids. Why's this?Research has shown
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| | group of other kids to tell them.Another
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| that most children when asked who a
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| | example is where an adult may say to a
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| stranger is, will say 'someone mean or
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| | child "quickly, come with me, your mummy
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| ugly looking'. They simply won't view a
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| | daddy has been hurt and they want me to
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| nice looking lady or a kind looking man
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| | take you to them." Let your kids know
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| as someone they should steer clear of.
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| | that if something has ever happened to
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| When you think about it, we too probably
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| | you for real, you would only send a
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| only avoid a 'strange' looking character
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| | family member/teacher etc. to get them.
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| who tries to talk to us in the street. In
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| | Stress that, even though it might sound
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| terms of child sexual abuse, the majority
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| | very plausible because the person seems
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| of children are molested by someone the
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| | to know family names, they should go and
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| family knows, sometimes by an actual
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| | find a trusted adult who can check it
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| family member. So advising children that
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| | out. Go over again with your kids that,
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| only strangers are capable of harming
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| | although they may slightly know the
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| them will place your children off
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| | person who is telling them to come with
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| guard.For older children (around ten yrs
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| | them, they shouldn't feel bad about
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| plus) it should be ok to give the real
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| | saying no, and getting assistance from
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| reasons as to why you are concerned about
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| | someone they know well.More Hypothetical
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| child abductions and the tragic outcomes
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| | Scenarios
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| of some of these. For younger children
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| | God forbid your child has found
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| though, we see absolutely no need for
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| | themselves vulnerable in a dangerous
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| them to understand that there are people
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| | situation, but should someone have
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| in the world who take children to
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| | managed to take your child, role play
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| sexually abuse and sometimes murder them.
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| | what the person may say to them to get
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| It is far better, and more advisable to
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| | them to 'shut up'. Obviously an abductor
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| 'stretch the truth' a little and tell
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| | molester will want to hush a screaming
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| them something like "there are people out
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| | child and may say things like "stop
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| there who don't have children of their
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| | screaming or I'll hurt your mother/father
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| own, so they try and steal someone else's
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| | etc". Let your kids know that this will
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| child". This, in our opinion, is far
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| | not happen! and they are to scream, kick,
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| easier for a little child to comprehend,
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| | scratch and punch for all their might.
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| and while scary enough in thought for
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| | Yelling out "He/She's not my mum/dad!" or
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| them to take heed of what you say, won't
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| | "I don't know this person!" is also
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| create unnecessary terror in their little
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| | advised. If your child has on his/her
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| heads.Some 65% of non-parental child
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| | AmberWatch, then the alarm alert will
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| abductions are committed by someone the
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| | really help draw attention from passer's
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| child or the childs' parents have
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| | by to the situation.Even with sexual
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| actually met before, no matter how
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| | molestation cases, children are often
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| briefly. (We say non-parental because the
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| | told by the perpetrator to keep quiet
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| rate of disgruntled non-custodial parents
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| | about what has happened, or he will
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| who kidnap their children are much higher
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| | 'hurt' someone else in the family, or
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| than abductions from other people.) Think
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| | something equally as terrible. If your
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| of some scenarios where you have had a
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| | child knows in advance that this is yet
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| friendly, albeit brief banter going with
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| | another well known 'trick' to keep them
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| someone you don't know. A tradesperson
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| | quiet, they can focus on protecting
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| that has come to your home; someone you
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| | themselves, without the added fear and
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| chatted with in line at the post office
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| | guilt that they may be causing more harm
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| or in the general neighbourhood; a
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| | to others.Be Specific about 'No Go' areas
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| salesperson coming to your door. All your
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| | of the Body.
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| child needs is to witness is you having a
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| | For the average parent, statistics that
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| chat or a laugh with someone seemingly
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| | 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 7 boys will
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| 'nice', and the child no longer views
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| | experience some kind of sexual
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| them as a stranger if they happen to come
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| | molestation in their childhood, is
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| across them again. If mum is out the
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| | heartbreaking. Make sure your children
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| front gardening and little Sally sees her
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| | know that any part of their body that a
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| chatting to someone walking past with
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| | swimming costume covers is a 'No Go' area
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| their cute dog, Sally is far more likely
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| | for anybody other than a trusted family
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| to let this person chat to her if she is
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| | member. This also includes touching parts
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| out in the front garden without mum a few
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| | of an adults body. Make sure your child
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| days later - especially if they have that
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| | knows that any sexual advance towards
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| cute little dog with them! Remember, most
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| | them is against the law. This will give
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| paedophiles are incredibly child savvy
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| | them the confidence to assert themselves
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| and personable with children.So What Do
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| | if they know it's a legal crime, rather
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| You Say?
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| | than just something mum or dad don't
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| The best approach is to teach young
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| | want.Keep open communication with your
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| children not to talk to ANYONE if you, a
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| | children and encourage them to talk to
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| teacher, carer or other parent is not by
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| | you about anything without guilt.
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| their side. This may not sit well with
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| | Remember, paedophiles often use the "our
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| parent's hoping to instill politeness
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| | little secret" ruse.On a final note,
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| into their kids, but it's by far the
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| | molesters are very good at detecting
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| safest move. If an adult or responsible
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| | attention/affection starved kids. Address
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| carer is not by their side, there is no
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| | any work/home life balances before it's
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| need for cordiality, and most adults
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| | too late, knowing the effort you put into
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| today will understand that.If your child
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| | your children today will sow the seeds
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| is old enough to walk to and from school
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| | for the next generation of emotionally
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| on their own, or travel down to the shops
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| | healthy adults.Jo-Anne Rowland is the
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| without you, they need to understand how
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| | director of AmberWatch Australia, the
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| to react in certain circumstances. For
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| | Australian distributor of the AmberWatch.
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| example:No adult should ask a child for
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| | Recently featured on CNN's Youth Trend
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| help or directions. Kids can be caught
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| | Report and currently taking the child
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| off guard if someone pulls over in a car
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| | protection world by storm, the AmberWatch
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| while they're walking along or riding
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| | is being heralded as a 'first of it's
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| their bike. If the person yells out for
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| | kind' child prevention/protection
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| directions, let your child know it's ok
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| | product. The beautiful Teri Hatcher has
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| for them to not respond, or they can
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| | just been announced as the international
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| simply say 'I'm sorry, I can't talk to
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| | spokesperson.
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